Drop Dead, Gorgeous

Aaron: First you need to realize that you are an individual and what you look like has nothing to do with you are and the people who criticize  you are farse worse off than you are beceause they need to put people down to feel good about themselves.  They are being far more destructive to themselves because they depend on people being around to make fun of.  I wish I could just say 'ignore them' because that's really not possible.  I wish I could just say 'ignore them' because that's really not possible.  Just keep in mind that those people are insecure or jealous of you...sounds like such a 'mom' thing to say, but it's true and if people are talking bad about you, then you are doing  something right!  Just know that you're beautiful and unique the way you are and there are so many people who love you and care about you.  Surround yourself with those people and about the walls you have to put up, that is a ough thing to fix.  It takes a lot of time and work to break those walls down...but take those risks...let someoe get to know you even if it takes a long time and if you get hurt, you're gonna grow as a person even more.  Try not to look at being hurt as a bad thing necessarily.  Look at it s a growing experience and know you're gonna be so much stronger when you get thru it.  Hang in there!!

mooeysreindeer: When I was a young child, my father was extremely abusive. (I don't want to express details, I'm sorry). He left for a while, but recently he has come back into my life and says he wants "the father-daughter relationship he missed out on." Although hesitantly, I complied; however, I am absolutely terrified that the abusive cycle will only begin again. I don't want to be close to my father, nor do I want to go through the pain he brings into my life again.
Please, what should I do?

Aaron: That's a tough question and what I would do is have a talk with him and state the facts.  It could even just be a phone call...tell him how he has hurt you and that you are not ready to trust him yet.  Tell him how you 'feel'.  Nobody in the world can argue with you about how you are feeling.  Stand your ground and don't back down.  I'm sure it's a little intimidating and scary, but it will really help you to get everything off your chest, stand up to your dad, and let him know how you feel.





invisible42day: My friends are always hanging with me.  I have one friend who I will do anything for and another friend who is mega hyper. Two days ago my friends went to a spa for the day. They came back yesterday and said that I was a backstabber and they started to beat me up. I ran from them and told my mom but then they lied to my mom and said that I was beating them. I got grounded for two months. I always did favors for them and now my friends are telling my other friends that I said mean things about them and they told the whole school that I'm a lesbian. They want to be friends again but my other friends hate me. What should I do?!?!

Aaron: First of all, what they did is completely unacceptable.  Are those the kind of people you want to be friends with again??   I would cut them out of my life completely.  I think this has happened to everyone to some extent and it's hard.  Fight the rumors  maturely and keep your head up like it doesn't bother you.  They want to see you pissed off so definately don't give them what they want!  People who truly know you, know what they are saying is not true and will stick up for you and stand by your side.  About your mom, talk to her when it's just you and her and tell her what happened in a calm way.  Tell her she is your mom and you love her but you are hurt by her not believing you and you're frustrated that you are being punished for something you didn't even do. 




caity0718: Okay so my parents are divorced and I've lived with my Dad my whole life until last year when I moved with my Mom. I went to a new school and made new friends but they didn't really turn out to be as good of friends as i thought. I miss my old friends so now I want to go and Live back with my Dad but I don't know how I'm going to tell my Mom and she tends to make a big deal out of things. So should I just stay there and try to work things out or move back with my Dad....

Aaron:  If you absolutely hate it  living at your mom's house and going to that new school, then yes. You should feel comfrotable where you go to school and not be forced to do something and that's what your parents should want for you too.  Tell her it has nothing to do with her and that you love living there but you just don't feel comfortable at your new school and would like to move back to your dads.  If she gets upset, there's not much you can fo about it but just know you're her daughter and she will always, always love you more than anything no matter what.  Even if she is mad at you.

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